Creating Quality Time With Your Children

Driving home from church, I asked my son, “What did you talk about in Sunday School today?” His reply… “Jesus.” And while I am certain Jesus was mentioned during his time at church, I also know there was more to the discussion that that. My choices were: 1. Take this as the quick and simple answer 2. Spend some quality time creating deeper conversation Quality time with our kids can be tough sometimes. With work, children’s activities, adult activities, church activities, (and the list goes on), we have to be mindful of making time for our kids each day. That might look different for different families, but it is vitally important for the health of your family unit. How do we make sure some real quality goes into our daily lives with our children? Here are a few simple tips that might hel you: 1. Leisure time together… maybe it’s playing a board game, or watching your favorite movie together, playing outside, or strolling through the mall. Whatever it is that you and your children enjoy doing together, make a little time each day to engage in some leisure time with your kids. This gives you the opportunity to unwind and share in a relaxed atmosphere together, which helps increase the sense of connection. 2. One-on-one time… if you have more than one child, you know how hard this can be. Making time specifically for each child can be difficult with the busyness of our days. And while spending time playing and interacting with your children is a wonderful time of connection, the connection that comes from those moments of one-on-one sharing are incredibly sweet and precious. Maybe its a short conversation after school, a talk in the car, or a short walk with one of your kids after dinner. Perhaps it’s the sweet moments just before bedtime, or time spent cleaning the kitchen together. Whatever it looks like in your home, make sure EACH of your children get that unique and special time with you. 3. Open up a book… Reading together is a terrific quality activity. Read a story from the Bible or their favorite children’s book. Have them read aloud to you while you make dinner or drive in the car. Ask questions and discuss what you are reading. Make your children think and ponder what they are reading, and have meaningful discussions about the stories. 4. Traditions and routines… kids love routines and they love traditions. Those sweet holiday traditions that you replay year after year will make beautiful memories as your children grow into adulthood. Your daily routines will have a lasting impact on them, as well. Traditional family vacations, birthday celebrations, and holiday activities create a sense of connection and are vitally important in creating memories and beautiful reflections for the future. 5. Love the Lord together… perhaps the greatest gift we can give our children is the experience of loving the Lord and living for him. Our own lives must be a reflection of this as we model this through our own words and actions. It is our responsibility to teach our children about Jesus, and how to live a righteous life. Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6) Parenting is seldom easy, but it is one of the most rewarding things we can ever do. When the time spent with our children is quality time, those relationships are strengthened, and the bond we have with our children is cemented. We should seek God always for his guidance and direction as we strive to be parents that glorify him in our actions, and that create a loving and nurturing environment in which to lead our children to the cross.

It’s almost two weeks after Christmas, and today I finally took my decorations down. What a task! Garland, bulbs, lights, and figurines scattered across my table as I packed away for another year. As I put everything back in its place, I couldn’t help but smile.
Taking the ornaments off my well-adorned tree, I took a moment to ponder my treasures. “Baby’s 1st Christmas” ornaments from 32 years ago were being packed away with a “Baby’s 1st Christmas” ornament that was bought brand new this year. Hand-made ornaments from school took their place beside beautifully adorned ornaments that were bought in lovely gift shops or given as precious gifts. Ornaments that marked “First Christmas together” and “ First Christmas in our new home” are now packed away with ornaments from all the wonderful, memory-making vacations we have taken. What a sweet thing it is to take a walk down memory lane. What a joy it is to have all those sweet memories tucked inside my heart. They will be packed away until next year, when I will take them out and smile over them all over again. Most likely, something new will be added to the collection that will have a special meaning of its own.
Life is a lot like that. We have special moments, special memories, that we tuck away and revisit on occasion. Along the way, we acquire new moments to add to our recollections. And as we walk through this life, experiencing the joys and hopes, pondering the special moments we have passed through, our Father in Heaven is right there. He is like the tree. He is the base of our lives. And when those special times come our way, we add that ornament to our tree. We place them on those evergreen needles, we secure them tightly, and we stand back and admire the view.
My prayer for you is that your tree is well adorned…that days, months, and years are filled with special moments tied with beautiful bows and hung on the branches of your life. And that sometimes, amidst the busyness of life, you have time to take them, one by one, and really appreciate them, and that you remember those moments with a smile on your face and joy in your heart.

Gather Your Girls

God created us for community.  He created us, as women, to need fellowship with other women.  It was His plan that we come together…in times of joy and celebration, and in times of sorrow and need.

We have a beautiful promise found in His word…that when we come together, He joins us in that place.  He is there in our moments of celebration, and He is there in our times of pain.

Do you have women in your life who walk your victories with you?  And are there women who hold your hand through the toughest trials?  We were not meant to dance through life on our own, but with a Congo line behind us, and our Father in Heaven leading the way.

There is power in prayer, and there is something so sweet and powerful about gathering together in prayer… calling on His name and knowing without a doubt that He hears you.  And knowing that He will meet you where you are, and He will honor the prayers of those praying for and with you.

Believe in that promise found in Matthew. Believe that coming together is powerful.  Rest in the certainty that He is there with you, that He hears you, and that He will not leave you abandoned.  Gather your girls.  He is right there waiting.

 

Anxiety can ruin our day.  It sneaks in through the back door of our minds and grips our hearts.  When it gets a really good grip on us, it is hard to get loose.  But we are overcomers.  God has given us tools to break free from the chains of anxiety, and one of those tools is the kindness of others.  Having someone speak kind words into your anxious heart can be just the thing we need to remove that anxiety.

Do you have someone in your life that speaks kindness?  Someone that can penetrate the depths of your troubled soul with their words of love, concern, and compassion?  What about you…do you speak kindness to those around you?  Are you that source of strength and support to others?

Let’s not allow our hearts to be weighed down by worry.  And let’s help others keep free from that bondage, as well.  SPEAK KINDNESS!  Surround yourself with others who will SPEAK KINDNESS to you.  A lighter, more cheerful world is what we all need😄

 

It is so important that we have women who live for Christ to mentor us.  We need the example and the accountability.  Surrounding ourselves with wise women who walk with Christ helps us continue to propel forward in the direction God has purposes for us.

Who are those women in your life?  Do you have women of wisdom to seek guidance from?  Do you fellowship with like-minded believers?  Are there women in your life that will tell you what you need to hear, even when it isn’t what you want to hear?

Life is so much easier when we walk alongside others who have the same heart for Christ as we do.  There is such a sweet joy found in connection with others who love as Christ loved.  Thank You Lord that you provide that sisterhood.  Thank You for the precious gift of friendship.

 

Are you feeling like life is impossible?  Maybe you are in a place where you feel like success is drifting further and further away, and you are stuck out on the crashing waves.

Has God given you an assignment that you are doubting you have the ability to see through to the end?  Are you ready to give up?

Hold on, my sweet sister!  You are not alone.  God is walking right beside you in your difficult moments, in your doubts and fears, and in your days out on the crashing waves.  If He has called you to a specific assignment, He will equip you to see it through.  He knows your gifts,your talents your abilities.  He knows because He gave them to you,

When we rely on ourselves, we set ourselves up to fail.  But when we put our trust in God, He will make a way for us in the places we feel lost.  Letting God take the lead in our lives opens the door for all the new things He has for us.

He has great things waiting for you!  Areas of your life that seem like a desert can be transformed to beauty.  You are the canvas, my sister.  Hold still and let Him create His masterpiece.

Maybe you woke up to a crisis this morning.  Maybe you didn’t sleep well, and you are dreading the day ahead.  Perhaps you are facing illness or death in your family, or suffering through grief.  Perhaps you are dreading your “to do” list and just want to pull the blankets back over your head and shut out this day.  Or it could be that you have been feeling down for a while…inadequate, unimportant, misunderstood, unloved.

Dont let the enemy lie to you !  Don’t let him speak those untruths to your heart that say you cannot make it through whatever your day holds.  Don’t allow him to convince you that you are not loved, appreciated, and so very worthy.

Your trials are not what defines you…how you walk through them is.  As you naviagate through the hurts, the pains, the uncertainties, the fears, and the frustrations…look up to the One who is walking with you.  He is using each moment to mold and shape you.  Nothing is wasted with God, and your testimony is being created through your times of struggle.

And while you hang on, you are getting stronger, and your faith is multiplying.  It is through our deepest struggles and darkest moments that our faith comes alive. Those troubles are temporary…but the enduring faith that comes from them will last a lifetime!